Goldsons Ask For Privacy

Wish you the best of luck.But you know how the press works. ,

If this had been any other alderman paul bass would be doing a 5,000 word takedown of them.

This seems to be a private matter called in by a third party. I'm also not sure why the mayoral spokesman is weighing in on this. It's an unfortunate private incident and I think Ald. Goldson and his wife deserve to be left alone to work this through.

So, anybody else see the irony in an article that is headlined "Goldsons Ask for Privacy" and then tells all about the fight they had, which most of us would NEVER HAVE KNOWN ABOUT if the NHI hadn't written about it?

(Or the irony of someone like me clicking on the headline, when all I had to do to grant their wish for privacy was to NOT click on the headline?)

Sorry this made the news. Big Hugs to you both. it will blow over

sorry to hear about you situation, but your asking to be given the privacy that a normal couple would have. is absurd, a normal couple would have been arrested and charged with domestic violence.

... Even if the press called Adam for comment he should have declined and not given details. If the press wants to make an issue and publicize an incident of an alderman let the newspaper get the police report and give out the gory details. What the heck is wrong this administration anyway? I know that when you are an elected official you are put up for public scrutiny, but come on now! Adam Joseph shame on you and shame on the mayor for allowing this ... to go on with comments from paid staff. Adam there are times when it is very appropriate to just say you feel this is a private matter and you have no comment. Although I don't agree with everything Alderman Goldson does or says he has never been a malicious type of guy and this is malicious for any paid staff to comment on.
Let this couple be and leave them alone and get your nose out of other peoples business!

Domestic violence is a serious issue and it is inexcusable that this paper would engage in euphemisms to gloss this incident over and protect the alderman who probably receives the most favorable coverage despite his appalling track record.

I don't see this article protecting the alderman, but more stating the basic facts and then protecting whats left of the privacy of the couple. The details were then provided by the mayor's spokesman which I believe should not have been allowed if one or both parties were suspected victims of domestic violence. The Goldson's issued a more appropriate statement and I think the rest should be between them and the courts, police, counselors or whomever they feel to trust. Good- luck and God Bless your family and I hope all works out to what is best for everyone involved! Alderman Goldson has always been someone who stood up for the community in New Haven and he and his family deserve a chance to heal and move forward.

So Darnell complainins and complains about how much tax he has to pay, but has enough of the green left to take a vacation to Orlando. Elect the rich and famous to office and they live in the Magic Kingdom for ever. Very Sad.

Why does the mayor's office feel the need to announce the incident involving this alderman, which is a police matter? Why is there the need for the Mayor's paid staff to highlight this? Why has the Mayor taken such a special interest in this particular alderman and his family?

Reading between the lines, the family trip was without glitch and enjoyable. It is unfortunate that the stress of being on the road for thirty hours took the Goldson's to the level it did. As unfortunate, is the fact that Mr. Goldson is a local political figure, and we all know that people in his position are truly not regarded as "NORMAL, EVERYDAY PEOPLE." But, hold your heads high, keep looking beyond the sky and ask your creator to be your intercessor.

Be Aware that STRESS CAN BE A KILLER. I'm so sorry the media and police were involved and you and others in your situation shall be in my prayers. LOVE YEH, ONE ANOTHER. GOD BLESS

If this was a police officer darnell would be asking for his job. Now he wants privacy? Right...

Sorry about all this Goldson--hope you and your wife are well. No couple, no person, is perfect, and I hope people commenting remember that.

If a public official physically assaults his/her partner leaving marks, I would say that is certainly newsworthy.

@K
I think you make a valid point--spousal abuse and domestic violence is a real problem in our society and one that should be highlighted--with that said, we don't know what actually happened, so I'm uncomfortable speculating on Mr. Goldson's private life.

The police were involved, they charged both individuals, and it sounds like matters have been conducted properly.

As a member of the public, I am satisfied that there was oversight and appropriate behavior, and I don't feel the need to speculate on Darnell's private life or discuss more.

There is often a huge rush to blame someone before all the facts come out, and I think it is pretty chilling how quickly someones reputation and life can be ended by rumors and gossip. I really think that people reading this story should keep their thoughts about the Goldson's to themselves and wait more information.

This is not the possibility that Darnell gave out a lucrative tax-payer funded contract to a supporter--or that he did anything as a city official improperly--it is purely a matter of his own domestic life, and I think if the facts above are the only known facts, there is no need to make accusations or assumptions about what happened.

Im appalled by the posts below offering regrets to Goldson for an "unfortunate incident." Yes couples argue and disagreements happen. But since when did we start condoning physical violence just bc we like someone? Regardless of who escalated the incident domestic violence is a pervasive problem in our society that leads too many men and women to suffer in silence. physical wounds/scrapes indicate this was more than just a shouting match. How abt we stop blaming media for reporting abt bad behavior and start rejecting that behavior.

TO CHARLIE O'KEEFE SPECIFICALLY. IRRELEVENT COMMENTS HAVE CERTAINLY BEEN EXPRESS INTO THIS MATTER/ISSUE. HOWEVER, HOW CAN YOU HAVE HATED IN PRESS, ON THE GOLDSON FAMILY TAKING A VACATION. WHAT IS IT WITH YOU? THE MODE OF TRANSPORTATION, THE LOCALE THEY CHOSE TO GO, TIMING? WHAT IS IT? EVERYONE DESERVES A BREAK FROM IT ALL, INCLUDING YOU AND ME BUT MY FUNDS WON'T ALLOW IT. OBVIOUSLY THEIRS DID. SO WHAT. STOP HATING AND PRACTICE CIVILNESS IF NOT LOVE. IT IS PRETTY UNCIVIL TO SUGGEST A WORKING MAN, PERHAPS WORKING COUPLE WOULD HAVE CLEARLY NEGATIVE REMARKS ABOUT A VACATION. COME ON, GET WITH IT, THERE ARE MUCH MORE PRESSING THINGS TO CONCERN ONE SELF WITH. GET A GRIP. IT'S 2011 AND IT'S VOTING TIME AGAIN. THIS CAMPAIGN NEEDS SCRUTINY BY ALL.

Talk about special pleading for your favorite NH pol. Just admit it - you're stenographers.

@Outraged:
Do we know for a fact that Darnell committed abuse? While I think spousal abuse and domestic violence is loathsome, I think that recent news events have shown us that a rush to convict someone outside of a courtroom is not a good thing.

As I said, we have no idea what really happened. I personally am not a "fan" of Mr Goldson--I like some of what he does, I dislike many other things, and we've publicly disagreed on a great many issues. I'm not "defending him", but just speaking up for keeping an open mind and respecting the privacy of others.

We don't know how anything happened or what went down--why rush to judgement? I am going to let our court system and judicial system handle it, that's all I'm saying, neither I nor anyone else is condoning nor encouraging violence--simply encouraging everyone to keep their tempers cool before they rush to judgement.

The one thing most people don't realize is that violence is at the very core of our very existence and we are enveloped by it like a cocoon. Although not all violence is outwardly expressive, fits of anger are endemic symptoms of violence. When we get angry, there are physical changes to our body chemistry - certain hormones and other enzymes and chemicals are released which heighten our agitated states of being. We may not punch our partner, but punch a pillow or wall or some other inanimate object as a release of tension. Forgive me for being so clinical.

I do not condone physical violence per se, but do understand the core philosophy. There is just some level of conduct that is so extreme as to warrant violence; say an attack or the harming of a child or family member by some stranger perhaps would invigorate a violent response, or self-preservation.

Aside from my digression into violent behavior and its necessity or origins, I refer to the Bible for guidance and remember that "He that troubleth his own house shall inherit the wind: and the fool [shall be] servant to the wise of heart." Proverbs 11:29

We must always be vigilant to not let the Devil into our hearts and into our minds. Although we strive to follow the word of God, we are not God; we are not perfect, we are human beings with flaws and frailties.

All that said, let's give the Goldson family a chance to heal and keep them in our prayers.

My question to the NHI is -- how many times are the police called to the homes of couples, or residents in NH on a daily basis because someone reports loud noises or shouting, etc? Do you report on all of them? Why on this one?

I deplore domestic violence and firmly believe that we should all do everything we can to prevent it. However, based on the information in the article - "Police charged each of them with third-degree assault and second-degree breach of peace" -- and the statement released by the couple, it does not seem that there was domestic violence. If the situation was exactly the same, and Mr. Goldson was not an alderman but just a member of John Q. Public, would this article have been written? What was the main objective in writing this article?
In what way is this serving the public good?

There are truly important issues going on in NH that deserve good investigative journalism to inform the people. Particularly in this election season-- there are a number of issues that are still beneath the surface that need to be unearth. People need to be engaged and challenged at a more cerebral level. The NHI is capable of outstanding journalistic work; it needs to be perceived as a vital information link in the theater of discourse.

I finally met Darnell a couple of weeks ago at the City Clerks office.

He did mention that since there was no one running against him in this years election, that it was going to be hard for him to generate press.......

Guess Again.....

posted by: ohan karagozian on July 18, 2011 11:33pm

Aside from my digression into violent behavior and its necessity or origins, I refer to the Bible for guidance and remember that "He that troubleth his own house shall inherit the wind: and the fool [shall be] servant to the wise of heart." Proverbs 11:29

The Bible has violence in It.

Psalm 2:9 You will rule them with an iron scepter; you will dash them to pieces like pottery."

Thanks to all that have suggested that there not be a rush to judge, and for the others who are more concerned about my family than scoring political points. I did not plan to comment, but had to after seeing the comment form Bill Saunders.

@Bill Saunders:

Why are you misrepresenting the facts. We were joking, someone made some sort of snide remark about my always being in the press, I responded that since I did not CURRENTLY have an opponent, that would not be an issue this time. In addition, I also said that I expected that the powers that be would find an opponent to challenge me, last election they waited until after the convention to put forward a candidate. I still expect that they will do so, since they have been actively interviewing potential candidates for several weeks now (several who do not even live in the ward).

Bill, I am truly disappointed, I have to say that I am clearly not a good judge of character.

Darnell, It is very unfortunate this article ever grabbed roots. However, you should not second guess your ability of judgement of character. You we're probably right on target when it came to this Bill person. Then comes along interfering influence, which renewed ones mind and that's all it took. You continue to be you, fight (not your wife)for what is right for residents in your area and the city at large, to make things better for US ALL. It's a vicious circle. What goes around (bet) will come back around. THIS YEAR RIGHT HERE 2011, IT UP FOR A SUPER CHANGE OF AND FOR THE CITIZENS OF NEW HAVEN. THE ONLY WAY TO ACCOMPLISH THAT IS TO BAND TOGETHER THEN BOND TOGETHER. PUSH FOR VOTER REGISTRATION, AND VOTERS VOTE. THOSE (REFERRING TO FORMER FELONS) WHO THINK THEIR OAST PREVENT THEM FRON DOING SO, HELP INFORM THEM THAT TIME HAS BEEN PAID IN FULL AND THEY ARE OF AGE. WE NEED THEIR VOTES TO VICTORY. RESEARCH THE CANDIDATES, THINK HARD ABOUT THEIR FINDINGS AND VOTE. WE NEED COMMITTMENT, WE NEED EXPERIENCE, WE NEED INDEPT INSIGHT OF OUR CITY POLITICALLY AND RESIDENTIALLY. AND DON'T FOR A MOMENT DISMISS LONGEVITY INTO THIS ARENA, THERE'S A REAL CHALLENGE BEFORE US THAT MUST BE...WON, WON, Won.

Darnell is right about Bill Saunders' commentary.

Bill Saunders is entitled to his opinion, but that does not mean that his opinion is beyond examination for rational thought. No person would want to willfully draw negative attention to themselves and Bill is suggesting that Darnell created this incident.

I am sure that if Darnell wanted some attention he would have chosen a better time and setting and an event that would portray him in a better light so as to promote himself or his agenda.

The inference and suggestion of Bill Saunders' commentary are most distasteful and well noted as a reflection of his poor judgement of words and thoughts.

Only on the NHI would this story turn into a pep rally for their favorite alderman.

"nothing to see here. move along. move along."

Your political coverage is sliding into self-parody.