I was sweeping hair off of the floor the other day at Luvena Leslie Curly Hair Salon on Audubon Street, where I work as a hairstylist part-time. I swept closer to a chair where a small white boy, around 5 years old with bright curly reddish-orange hair, sat. “Don’t you touch me!” he shouted.
“I don’t want to touch you. I’m sweeping the floor,” I replied.
“Don’t you touch me. Don’t you dare touch me,” he repeated angrily.
My biracial supervisor told the boy he was being rude. His mother, who had the same complexion and hair as her son, didn’t say a word.
Moments later, when his mom was paying for her son’s haircut, the red-headed boy asked me a question: “Why is your skin black?”
I initially felt shamed by his question. I’m not sure why. Maybe because he asked with such disgust in his voice. Maybe it was because of the way he shouted at me while I swept floor.
But in an instant, I remembered that this was a small child. I remembered that behind his ignorant behavior was probably some ignorant adult influencing his behavior. I wondered if it was his mother.
“Your son wants to know why my skin is black,” I said to the boy’s mother.
The mom quickly explained to her son that my skin is black, the same way that his hair is red.
I guess that’s the simplest way to describe physical attributes to an elementary-aged kid.
But I think it would have made me feel better if she would have acknowledged his apparent distaste for me because of my brown skin and explained to him that he was being a bigot and perpetuating the racism that has existed in this country for hundreds of years.
OK, well maybe that’s asking too much.
It was just upsetting to see such a small child with such strong opinions about skin color at such a young age. I learned that prejudice is a learned behavior. He has learned hate before he’s even learned fractions or how to do simple addition.
If kids are learning hate at such a young age, what does this mean for the future of our country?
Such a hard thing to experience! I applaud Ms. Davis for keeping her cool. I would have felt personally attacked. Besides being an angry young child who feels disdain for anything or anyone not exactly like himself, he may also suffer from developmental delays that his mother did not want to explain. It's too bad the mother didn't apologize at least a little, as she saw how insulted Ms. Davis felt.